Remember those dating days when Romance was thick in the air? How long has it been since you actively showered romance on your husband? When was the last time you gazed at your husband with longing?
The longer we are together, the easier it is to let go of those little things we once saw as necessary, such as Romance, time and long lingering looks. In this blog, we are going to look at not just romancing your man but how we can build him up in very deliberate ways. We are always making choices, and one of the greatest choices we ladies can make is to choose to romance our husbands. Every time we express an act of romance to our husband, we are telling them they are amazing, they are loved, and you fill their cup and encourage them to be amazing for you and those around him.
When we actively choose to love our man, we have the massive pleasure of making him feel 100 dollars. I know traditionally, we ladies wait for our men to step up and instigate some love and romance, but who says we have to let our men have all the fun, stress and responsibility? When we include even the smallest of romantic gestures into our daily lives we tell our man he is our everything and we are thankful God brought him into our life.
In this post, I invite you, oh beautiful woman, to bless your man by loving him through romance.
I am not only including a list; check out the categories and how you can feed your man Physically, emotionally and Spiritually, all while thinking about covering the five love languages.
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The Five love languages and Romance
Incorporating the five love languages into your romance
Turn up the romance by being a little Flirty.
The Five love languages and Romance
Romance starts with a desire to love your man, to fill him up and let him know how important he is to you. I have often referred to the five love languages in my social media posts, and it is my desire to include what love language you are expressing with each of the ideas below. Here is a quick overview of the five love languages.
Words of affirmation (W)
Receiving Gifts (G)
Acts of Services (S)
Quality Time (T)
Physical Touch (P)
The Five Languages is a beautiful resource by Dr Gary Chapman, and I would encourage you and your husband to visit his page and do the quiz to help you identify your love languages. Armed with this knowledge can go a long way to helping you express love and romance to your husband in ways that hit the mark and deepen all the good things you have or desire for your marriage.
I have also covered the Five Languages in more detail in this blog post. If you are wanting to get more ideas on how to express the love languages, check it out here.
Incorporating the five love languages into your romance
Pay him a compliment when he is not looking for one. Don’t just keep this one private; let your kids and friends know how proud you are and how loved he is. (W)
Plan a date night that focuses on him and his interests. (T)
Give your man your full attention when he is speaking. Put down your phone, keep eye contact and have an open listening posture. (T)
Show a real interest in his work (T)
Write him a love note expressing all the ways you love him (W)
Send him a text telling him you are thinking of him. (W)
Tell him you love him often. (W)
Buy him A gift for no reason (G)
Visit a brewery or distillery of his choice (T, G)
Phil enjoying a flight at The Barrel @ Clouds
Do what you say you are going to do. (S)
Play music that you listen to together when dating. (T)
Tell him he looks good in what he is wearing (W)
Have is Favourite clothes clean available as often as possible. (S)
Spend time recalling good times together, especially time when he is the hero of the story. (T)
Dream of things you hope to do together in the future. (T)
Give him an experience he has always wanted to try (G)
Plan a weekend away as a surprise (G, T)
Romance by Getting Physical
Go for a walk together. (T)
Make his favourite meal and create a date night that is all about him. (T, S)
Hold his hands and hug him often. (P)
Rub his back as he passes by you. (P)
Kiss him often. Researchers say couples should aim to kiss at least three (3) times a day, with one passionate kiss lasting at least seven seconds to help build intimacy and connection. (P)
You invite him on a date or trip. (T)
Find a copy of the song you danced to at your wedding and ask him to dance. (T, P)
Snuggle up on his lap. (P)
Offer him a beverage even if you are not having one. (S, G)
Be spontaneous, especially when he pulls you close. (T, P)
Turn up the romance by being a little Flirty.
Watch a romantic movie together. (T)
Flirt in secret as the day goes by, send notes, whisper things only he needs to hear in his ear. (W)
Turn up the heat during the day by sending texts letting him know exactly how you are feeling. (W, G)
Take note of the clothes he likes seeing you in, and make a point of getting dressed just for his eyes. (S)
Greet him wearing some nice lingerie. (G, P)
Play a game to get you in the mood. (T, P)
Romance is Spiritual
Support him as the head of the home and let him lead. (W)
Spend time attending services together. (T)
Pray together. (T, W)
Pray for your husband. (W, G)
Find ways to serve together (S)
Romance through giving space
Let him have time to relax. (G)
Give him time to be with his mates or indulge in hobbies or sports. (G)
Joy Fight
Looking after yourself
What do you eat or drink? When was the last time you dressed to impress your husband? These are all things that not can affect the way you feel and act. Even if you are only driven to look after yourself for yourself, your relationship will benefit. When you feel good about yourself, it is easy to smile and to feel loving to your husband, and this can help you to feel sexy. You are beautiful and have so much potential, lovely lady; give yourself permission to be the best person you can be.
Conversation starters
Feeling a little stuck on where to begin? Why not create a nice supper and have a conversation? Use this conversation to get ideas and go from there.
If you could design our weekend, what we would we do?
What is your favourite meal at the moment?
A perfect day, what would it look like?
What gives you peace?
Is there something I have done lately for you that you enjoyed?
What is one thing you wish I did more often to show you I loved you?
Looking for more ways to enhance your communication? Check out The Couple’s Communication Guide.
When we make the choice to be international in loving and romancing the man God has brought into our life, we have the potential to change our worlds for the better. We all have the need to be loved; the more we pour into our mate, the more he has the potential to grow and love you in return.
I love how the above list is not hard, the ideas on this list are simply a starting point, and from that point, you decide how you walk them out and get creative in how you romance your husband.
How are you going to fill your man up by loving on him through romance?
Guys, are you looking for some inspiration on how to romance your wife? We have a post for that as well.
